To the woman who wants to become a mother more than anything and was joyfully pregnant with twins after her 5th IVF treatment and just listened, paralyzed, as her doctor confirmed she’s having another miscarriage.
BREATHE. Just get through today.
You probably don’t know what a life coach is, right? I mean, why would you. I didn’t.
That is, until I met a lovely coach the first day after I quit my job and my intuition screamed "DUHHHHH," communicating not-so-subtly to me through every cell in my body.
Even once I dove into this new field with both feet, finishing my six-month intensive coaching certification and enrolling my first clients, I heard myself at parties:
“Oh, I’m just a life coach.”
It was an awkward outfit to try on for the first few months after I launched Shiny. Happy. Human., but most new identities are, don’t you think?
Try calling yourself a fiance for the first time. Obnoxious.
Mommy? IS THAT ME OR SOMEONE ELSE WHAT IS HAPPENING?
The irony is that my current career is actually a role I’ve played for friends and family since I was 12. Don’t believe me? Just ask them. I’m a feeler, an empath, a problem-solver and secret keeper and I’ve practiced holding nonjudgmental space since puberty. It’s a gift and a joy and so I never even imagined I could be paid to do it.
I don’t know where Gervase ends and coach begins. I’m drawn to the work I teach, because it’s helped me SO immensely in my own journey as a HUMAN BEING, and so the lines have blurred, and I’m more than okay with that.
Sorry . . . back to the big scary question:
A life coach is someone who listens beneath the surface and hears what you aren’t saying. Someone who shines a light on mismatched logic to help you make sense of and quiet your monkey mind.
A brainstorming and accountability partner. A gentle guide. A problem-untangler (definitely a thing) and space holder. Someone who sees who and how you COULD be, not all the “mistakes” you’ve made until now and all the barriers that might cause you to “fail.”
And we’re all different. We all have unique gifts and zones of genius - some of us are business coaches, others are spiritual coaches, I’ve met parent coaches and relationship coaches. But really, we are all life coaches and we all bring our own secret sauce to the table.
My secret sauce?
I’m a truth-teller and a "real AF" beautiful mess maker. A status quo breaker and an F-bomb dropper. A mirror holder who's like your keeps-it-real girl friend. A realist AND a dreamer (it's possible). I’m someone who gets YOU because, breaking news:
And I hear the logic-bound lies we as MOMMIES tell ourselves.
So because I’m a mom and I get moms, I’m a Mom Coach. But really, I hear from just as many not-yet moms as moms telling me one of my overshares have helped them through their current human moment. Really, I just want to help women make this whole human condition thing easier, but you, mamas, you are my people.
I know the mommy traps we fall into. I know our triggers. I know what our REAL LIVES look like AND I know we are all walking unique journeys with unique challenges in the same subtext: juggling raising tiny humans and LIFE. Cake, right? ;)
I know your heart. I know your pain. I know your spinning mind and churning heart, because I was you yesterday, last month, last year.
We need to stop pretending that parenting isn’t so hard. We need to stop pretending that “perfect” exists. We need to stop pretending that sacrificing our identities and relationships makes us “better moms.” It doesn’t. It makes us better actresses and more exhausted humans.
I’m passionate about helping mothers make being HUMAN easier. That means anxiety, overwhelm, stress, paranoia, fear, depression, marital disputes, guilt, self-worth and ALLTHETHINGS get easier after one conversation with me. I 100% guarantee this. Try me. Or ask them.
I’m obsessed with stripping the Photoshop filters off parenting so every mother I ever meet and work with knows a) she’s not the only one, b) other mom isn’t doing it “better” and C) motherhood is supposed to look like that.
I believe you do not need to dim your light to be type of mother you’ve always dreamed. Quite the contrary, you need to turn that shit ON.
Let your children see you SHINE. Remind your husbands and partners why they chose you in the first place. Wake up every morning feeling proud of the woman you are and confident in YOUR skin. Wanna know how we can raise fulfilled and fearless tiny humans? By being AWESOME. Doing the work. Saying YES to OURSELVES and leading by example. That is most definitely HOW.
So, that’s what a Mom Coach is. Or at least, that’s who I am and how I roll and what I believe and if you’re still reading this, I have one last question for you—
When’s the last time you even thought about who YOU are?
What you want? What you like? What makes you happy and what you can do to find relief and support as a human being instead of just as that under appreciated person who does ALL THE THINGS in your house?
It’s the perfect time for ACTION, mama. Time to stop THINKING about the above and MAKE A CHANGE. We are SO ready for you. Join me and the rest of the Mommy Soul Tribe here or here. It’s the easiest YES you’ll ever say to YOU.
What is a life coach? It’s what I was put on this earth to do.
And if you still have questions, I always make time for those. Schedule your complimentary Truth Chat and we’ll jam, sistah.
Love, Light and Bad-assery,
When you’re a new mom, it’s easy to feel a lot of things. You’ll feel alone, you’ll feel scared, you’ll feel like nobody understands how you’re feeling. But that’s not true, mama. Moms do. Other moms have been where you’ve been and they have felt what you’ve felt. This is one reason why your friendships with non-moms will sometimes change. (You can still keep them--they’ll just be different.)
But your new friendships with new moms will be sacred. Special. And that’s why there’s something about a mom group that just makes sense. We all need to vent together about our asshole children. We need to drink together when we just can’t do anything else. We need to cry together when we feel like we’ve lost our way.
That’s why I created the Mommy Soul Tribe. For moms to do all of these things...together. Here are a few reasons why groups like this are ridiculously beneficial to moms at any stage of their mommy-hood.
No one will support you like a fellow mom who just wants you to know that you’re doing it right. One reason that we moms can get so crazy and stressed is because we feel like no one understands us. We’re surrounded by children and husbands who just don’t get being a mom.
That’s what your mom group is for. Grab a glass of wine, get on Facebook, post about your troubles, and let us love on you.
One thing that I love most about my little mommy Facebook group is the fact that you can get on and chat with your friends without having to put on outside-the-home appropriate clothes to meet up with anyone. We’re all right here, inside that awesome rectangle that is your phone. You can create genuine friendships with so many moms in the group. There are moms in the same walk of life as you and moms that you can teach and moms that you can learn from.
Is your baby suddenly not sleeping as well as she used to? Does your toddler have a problem with picking his nose and you have no idea how to get him to stop? A mom group allows you to get advice from a diverse groups of moms: from those who are going through the same thing you are right now to those who already have and have some seriously great tips to get you through it.
You need some time for yourself. Fellow moms understand that and won’t give you a hard time for focusing on self-care. They’ll just tell you how jealous they are and give you even more awesome tips for what to do on your next me-day.
If you’re having a rough day with your toddler or your significant other, a mom group is really the place to hash it out and let out your emotions. We’re all women and we all understand that we’re humans with feelings. We’ll always support you when you need to talk about yours.
We would love you have you join our Mommy Soul Tribe, soul sister. Click here and introduce yourself to us!